“Grow up and move on”
If you made a mistake and you suddenly find yourself having feelings for a woman you’re really just friends with benefits with that’s not your fault. You can try to control yourself, but having sex with someone makes you feel closer to them. It’s only natural to develop some warm feelings after sharing a bed with a woman for a few months, but that doesn’t mean that you have to keep those feelings around. Just because it made sense doesn’t mean that you have to act on it. If you have feelings for your friend with benefits and you want them gone there are three simple steps that you can take to be emotion free by the end of the month.
Think about Her with Her Other Hookups
“She isn’t satisfied with you, it is time to take decisions”
Most of the time you won’t know much about how much sex your friend with benefits has. If you know, that’s alright. Just think about how many men get to touch her, and how she isn’t satisfied with just you. That should build up some bad feelings right away. If it hurts a little, that’s okay. Sometimes you have to be cruel to yourself. That’s the only way to approach something like this. You have to force yourself into it or it’s just not going to work out for you.
If you don’t know how much sex she’s having outside of you, just assume that it’s a lot. Think about how hot she is (but only for as long as it takes you to reasonably decide how attractive other guys would see her as) and then think about that added to the fact that she’s clearly into casual sex. You’ll feel really jealous and then you’ll realize that she was never really yours to begin with. It’s a tough thing to accept, but you have to do what you have to do.
Get under Someone New
If you’re only having casual sex with one person it’s not really casual sex, is it? It’s a lot harder to get attached when you have two or three regular partners instead of just one. You should do what it takes to get someone new in your life. Take up that coworker on her offer, hit up that pretty neighbor down by the pool, or even put an ad online. Personal sex ads are easy ways to find great no strings attached relationships. You’ll be glad that you did.
Focus on Her Flaws
If you find yourself unable to stop thinking about her, focus that obsession on her flaws. Maybe she farts every time she falls asleep. Maybe she has a really annoying giggle-snort that always makes you wince. Maybe it’s just the fact that you’re obviously compatible but she refuses to see you as anything more than your dick. Think about whatever you need to in order to get annoyed with her. Once you’ve gotten that under control you can take pleasure in the fact that you get to enjoy her smoking hot body without having to deal with her personal flaws.