“Relax your mind! Don’t get shocked. Think wisely”
Anyone who’s ever done anything on the Internet knows how easy it is to be anonymous. They also know that most of the time, being anonymous is a good thing, especially when you consider the fact that most online users are assholes on varying levels. One place where people tend to lean heavily on anonymity is sex personals websites. When you’re putting out ads that basically state that you’re willing to have sex with a stranger, it’s usually a good idea not to use your real name. People who respond to the ads are usually doing the same thing, but that’s not always the case. If you’ve ever put out an ad on a sex personals website looking for a hookup partner, you’ve probably had all kinds of replies from all kinds of people. But what if someone you knows responds to your ad? How do you handle that?
If you’re on a sex personals website looking for some pretty freaky sexual shit, it’s probably a good idea to delete everything if someone you know throws you a reply. If you were smart and used a fake name, you may not have to worry too much because there’s no way they can tell if it was you. If, on the other hand, you went ahead and used your real name, you might be in trouble. Unless they have concrete evidence (like screencaps) you can deny everything, but if they start spreading rumors around your work, family or social circles about the ad you put out, you may experience some serious issues. For that reason, it’s a good idea to delete everything you can the moment you realize you know the person behind the response-especially if that person tends to be an asshole in real life.
Test the Waters
“You can talk with her openly if you are using a fake name”
If you did things the right way and used a fake name, you’ve got a bit of an advantage. You know who the responder is, but they don’t know you. If you’re a little intrigued by the situation, you might consider taking things a little further. You can chat them up for a while and get a better idea of what they’re looking for. If you decide you’re not into that you can always call it quits. If you decide you’d like to take it further, you’re eventually going to have to reveal who you really are. How they’ll respond to that revelation might make or break your hook up desires, though.
Come up With Some Rules
If you’ve revealed who you really are and the responder was okay with it, it’s time to head for the end goal. Before you do that, however, you should seriously consider setting some ground rules. This isn’t sex with a stranger-this is someone you know. The repercussions of this could have some serious impact on your life. It might be a good idea to consider keeping this hook up a complete secret between the two of you. It might also be a good idea to make sure that they swear never to tell anyone about your ad while you do the same about their reply.